Dating Matchmaker

The many emails sent to me, a Dating Matchmaker, illustrate better than anything what it's like to be Dating today.

As a Dating Matchmaker I receive Happy emails. I receive Sad emails. I receive Angry emails. I receive Complaining emails. I receive Helpful emails. As a successful Dating Matchmaker I receive many many Grateful emails.

Sadly today many people treat Internet Dating like a Shopping Catalogue and the Dates as 'on approval'. Some eligible people can be too spoilt for choice whilst others struggle to get dates at all. Eligible people can soon find they are in great demand, so as soon as the first rosy glow wears off, they dump the one they are seeing and go back online to look for more.

This is a pessimistic view and certainly not everyone is like this. Many people do really work very hard to find someone special, a partner, and when they have - they work very hard to try to keep them.

The first of today's two emails is from someone who was really prepared to persevere.

"Dear Katherine,

I am writing this to thank you for your help,

Although our life styles are so different, she being a very arty type, and myself being very orthodox, our personalities did clash, and in the beginning it was hard going, but I had decided I wanted this lady, and I just knew she liked me, so I stood my ground, and now 5 months on, things are going very well between us, and it looks as if we might have a future together,

I am keeping my fingers crossed.."

This second email illustrates the disillusionment many people face with modern-day dating. Manners and Etiquette nowadays are quite different from what they were in the pre-internet era.

"I'd like to just drop you a short line to say that out of the contacts that you have been so kindly sending me I'm not really impressed with the number who have replied to my Emails...

I really don't think that I should be the one chasing them when they don't for whatever reason check their mail box regularly. If they have read my email and decided that they don't want to respond, it would be good manners to tell me so. That's not the type of man I would like in my life.

Thanks for all your help Katherine, you do a wonderful job. I think I'm going to give looking for a man a rest for now."

I'll finish with an email that is much more typical of the many emails I receive daily:

"Just to let you know that I’ve met a lovely man so I hopefully I won’t be needing you in the future. I’ve really enjoyed your newsletters and I do keep telling everyone what a good service you offer. I wish you all the best for the future. "